"How to Disarm Mean People."

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Your first reaction may be, "What's this site up to, anyway?!"

I mean, divide all obnoxious pushy remarks into 88 categories or "stargates," in order to generate some zenlike rejoinder? Then you'll see it's humble deep wisdom for "non-escalating verbal self-defense — how to change the mood when people are mean":

"You should comb your hair, Peter."
— "Anything else?
— Either way you win."

"I don't know if I can trust you"
— "Just don't!"
(Backup: "Life is a two-way street,
as they say in Chicago.")

That's taxi1010.com. Check it out.

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"An ulterior motivation for this website is to investigate a long-standing hypothesis of mine that Tai Chi or 'self defense of the self' as a mind / body / spiritual discipline needs a verbal construct to make it complete ... For better or worse, verbal aggression at its prickly core is a form of communication ... My 'intuition' (which is highly prized as a methodology of 'learning spiritually' in Chinese Philosophy) tells me as well that there is a connection that needs to be bridged between the martial philosophy that is intertwined with Tai Chi and verbal self defense ... The method of Classical Tai Chi to 'keenly slice using the blade by finding the thinness and space between the joints' combined with Non Escalating Verbal Self Defense can not only cut clean but heal the wound as well."

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Can you never think of the right thing to say? Trouble relating in social circumstances? Maybe Taxi1010 can help ... Examine one of the many, many stargates (use this handy map, organized by stage of psychological development) ... read one of the many, many essays ... wherever you go it is an explosion of advice, comebacks, hypothetical situations, and who knows how many MSPaint masterpieces. Spend a minute, spend a day, spend your life trying to figure this site out.

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Wat sê ’n mens tog as iemand opmerk: “Mmmm, mooi baadjie. Ek sien almal dra dit deesdae,” of na jy jou voor die stoof afgesloof het en (na jou mening) ’n heerlike ete voorberei het en jou gas sê: “Wat het jy vandag met die vleis aangevang!” of “Jou hare lyk vandag soos ’n ontploffing in ‘n klapperhaarma-trasfabriek!”

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What's this all about then? According to its own description Taxi1010 is about Non-escalating Self-defense or 'How to Change the Mood If Someone is Mean'. Personally, I can't make out what the whole thing is really about and I suspect the authors have made the site intentionally confusing. Visit Taxi1010 to have a look and if you are none the wiser see Katherine Mieszkowski's article on one of the site's founders, Richard Hart.

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I'm taking my college kids on a flight to our Naked Space where we dream together and hear each other and paint and sculpt and trust each other. I sent them to your site. We could use your help.

Curious? You'll find the link under Play, near the end of the file, on

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Come fly with us. It's fun. jeanne

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My Thoughts - Hello Richard, I have been exploring your site and getting acquainted with your thoughts. I have found them very enlightening, and have told all of my friends about it. Both of them! OK, so I'm not Mr. Popularity right now. But we are all real important. Anyway, I actually think you are really on to something here, and my thoughts are that it has applications in situations other than, or in addition to, verbal self-defense. General life skills, and that is a deep subject. I think your work is very, very important, and is the most unique, innovative contribution I have run into in a long time. I get around, too, watch TV, and everything. Talk to people now and then. Going through a particularly rough time in my life, I have needed the skills, and have noticed you hit the nail right on the head in several ways, about several things, several times. Way more therapeutic than most stuff I have run into, although the art therapy class was neat and got me into watercolors. I was in the hospital over the weekend, and I am OK now. "I am myself again." (The Madness of King George) The therapeutic nature of it has helped me to understand some things, and that was the most important aspect to me. But the main reason I think it has more general applications is the nature of your approach, using "It's closer to your libido, and to the part of you that dreams at night, which contains all the magic." That is what makes it so powerful and pertinent, I believe. This is some strong magic/medicine stuff, and a very interesting and innovative way to approach the problem and the need. I am still in a state of "wow"! It has been a while, and I am still wowing. I am amazed. Beyond genius. I am lucky I found it. Now I am on the site most days roaming about. I announced it as "a whole new level of human evolution and thought development." Thanks, John the Baptist

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It's a brain-as-database approach to thinking on your feet. His method: listen for keywords in conversation so you'll always be able to have the perfect retort on the tip of your tongue. "The main thing that a street-smart person does is they don't daydream," he says. "They're putting their energy into listening."

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"Richard Ames Hart sees language as a system of insults. People use language to tear one another apart, to destroy and to dominate ... His system taxonomizes verbal attacks with the rigor and specificity of medieval manuals of rhetoric ... It's a kind outsider-intellectual magnum opus, the literary counterpart of capacious cokebottle sculpture parks and roadside topiary gardens — a monument and a life's labor, flowing from an utterly individual mixture of mania and genius."

Moxie's Disease - All troubles begin with a single sentence, which tends to trigger an emotional response, rooted in childhood. Moxie's Disease presents an alternative, based on "playing with a person," the way a dolphin would. It contains a "test bed" of eighty-eight verbal attacks, along with a "local link" to a choice of playful, yet powerful, responses.

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Taxi1010 - This site offers 100 pages to help you communicate with bullies and antagonizers. It's like learning a language!

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Non-escalating Verbal Self-Defense - Database to teach kids emotional intelligence and street smarts - Daily real world comebacks and methods of verbal self-defense against insults and sarcasm.

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02.25.2001 - i found these social verbal dodges amusing, my sister could really learn from these, the other day she got cornered by a barrage of questions she didn't want to answer. of course, my thoughts on ignoring or not answering questions are somewhat uncommon.

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*****

Something new and interesting (well, new to me, not to the web in general) is Taxi1010.com, Non-escalating Verbal Self-Defense. At first the connections to tarot are not clear, but the creator of the site actually uses the structure of the tarot as the backbone for its organization and the underlying significance behind each section of verbal exchanges. As stated by Richard, its creator:

".....I am dividing all of human communication into eighty-eight distinct pieces; the question is, in what order? So in the very beginning, I decided to use the order of the Major Arcana in the Tarot as the underlying "order" for the entire website. You can see this on the sitemap page.

And then because I am dealing with "what goes wrong" in human communication, I look at the opposite of the Tarot: For instance, I see a Bully as someone who is "hiding the Magician in themselves"; that's why they're a bully; they feel they have no magic.

Next, I see a Belittler as someone who is "hiding the High Priestess in themselves"; that's why they're a belittler; they feel they have no contact with the tiniest voice inside themselves, the "whisper voice" that dreams at night (The High Priestess).

And so forth through the twenty-two Arcana."

I found that this insight made me go back and re-explore the site with a renewed vigor...... and so I think many of you will also find great insights on this page! You can reach Taxi1010.com, Non-escalating Verbal Self-Defense, by clicking on this link:

http://www.taxi1010.com

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Non-escalating Verbal Self-Defense, "Daily Web Site Turns the Tables on Mean People." No fighting spite with spite, this site seeks to defuse the emotional charge of commonplace verbal abuse. (I'm having a tough time determining how this site is supposed to be used, but it's big and browsable.)

Wow. I'm not sure I grasp a lot of what's on your site, but holy dinah have you put a ton of work into it. I can't decide if you're a totally mad genius or an utterly brilliant genius. It's gonna take me a month to peel back the layers of this onion and decode what you're saying. At any rate, just wanted to say: I've seen a lot of dreck out on the internet in the 12+ years I've been involved with it, but yours ranks as one of few sites I've seen that actually forces the reader to stop and *think*. And for that, and for your ideas, you deserve kudos. For whatever it's worth, you have them from me.
Best Regards; Scott

Richard: I actually finally was able to use one of your comebacks last night (unbelievable, huh?) toward a person who blurts out 'sarcastic' insults sometimes. I said it with a big friendly smile on my face, not with intent to maim but with double meaning - I am amazed at how well it worked - actually felt a little guilty that I so deflated and silenced the person (it was really a small thing, but I noticed) - I'll get over it. I've been failing to try your approach the last few days because I am conditioned to respond differently - but I'm having fun trying. I'm going to pick a few versatile phrases and play with them.
Thanks again, Kurt
The Self-Deprecating Guitarist

Hi Richard -- your site has blossomed like a garden in spring. amoret's art like songs on the page. clicking on the doorknobs and looking within i was near tears. it's great to read about taxi1010 in other languages. you've created something very beautiful.
your friend, Havi

Dear Richard, I like your website. It's beautifully done and actually quite astounding. I've been spending time visiting it this week. Something you wrote has helped me let go of trying to keep my new apartment in perfect order - (i.e. to be perfect is to be dead). It's nice to remember that life is to be lived. I love your sister's art work, too. I'm looking forward to reading more, and there is so much more ... love from your old friend,
Sasha

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A website, in an effort to create a kinder gentler world, is giving hints on how to address verbal altercations. Learn the Jedi-like strategies of belittling your foes without resorting to popular four letter words. (Click for story)

"Non-Escalating Verbal Self Defense. kthor 12/21/99 09:03:02 AM EST. Category: Society & Culture, People. Rating: 8.39. Votes: 25. 11 Comments. Okay, now help me out here. This guy's apparently a taxi driver with a completely insane metaphysical view on life. There's 88 pages, each named 'Stargates' for some reason. And it's all so I can have better conversational skills?"

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Volgens mij bedoelen ze gewoon een cynische/humoristische opmerking terug maken! Een voorbeeldje... Insult: "Not bad, for a girl!" —Big hit! Answer: "—It's the animal in me." Er zit een zeer (te) uitgebreide theorie achter deze niet-escalerend verbale zelf-verdediging... Op de site, www.taxi1010.com, staan elke dag een paar "insults", de volgende dag worden daarachter de "comebacks" geplaatst.

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Nov. 8, 1999 - Have you ever been insulted? Sure, we all have. Yet if you are like me, it will not just pass on its merry way, as it could for a person who had a skin as thick as the outer containment building of an American nuclear reactor, which is 4 feet of solid concrete. I wish that I had 4 foot thick concrete skin, but I don't, so when somebody insults me, I generally can't even think of a decent thing to say back to them. Insead, I stand there like a dumbfounded idiot and absorb said insult. Said insult then proceeds to mill around in my brain for a long while as I try to think of things I could have or should have said. Well no more of this! There is a website out there designed to tell you what to say when you have just been insulted without getting shot. So, check out, Non-escalating Verbal Self Defense.

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