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Category: Relationships and Society > Romance
What Is The Secret of Women?
Submitted by Achilles-GA
(Richard Ames Hart)
What is the secret of women? I asked someone in my taxicab if he knew, and he said he was gay and had no idea. "Don't even ask me about women," he said. "That's why I'm gay." I've asked other people, too. One guy sort of smirked and said he has no problem with women at all. Yet he couldn't (or wouldn't) say any more. The thing is, human beings have been around more than half a million years, and I'm just wondering if comedies, such as "There's Something About Mary," are the best we can do? At the other extreme we have Shakespeare's love sonnets. Yet seeing such movies, or reading those poems, don't really help a person in day-to-day life, when we actually meet women. It's as if they have some kind of radar attuned to something, yet you just can't tell what it is. Maybe the San Francisco Bay area simply isn't such a good place to hit it off with women. You'd think it would be a lot easier. And please, don't start thinking there's something wrong with me, because there isn't. I've had girlfriends I've been crazy about, and who have been crazy about me, yet even then, I could not tell you in words, why.
Subject: Re: What Is The Secret of Women
From: augusta-ga on 14 Jul 2004 08:18 PDT
The answer to what, in general, women find attractive in men is knowable. It's unfortunate that this topic is clouded by so much wink-wink nudge-nudge discussion, and reactionary female anger. The application of serious research and analysis can lead to genuinely helpful results.
For example, it is known that the fact that woman bear children and are for the most part stuck with them until they are independent, is a great driver in determining choice of partner. For this reason, successful, established, confident men are more attractive to women as these men are more likely to provide good help through the pregnancy and raising of the child. This is not a conscious decision but deeply rooted from evolutionary history.
I think also, because of this, woman are more attracted to a man if they know that other women are attracted to him. This is generally not the case in the other direction.
Men, on the other hand with their billions of sperm, are looking for healthy fertile hosts for their half of the chromosome contribution. That's why it is less complicated and more physical for a man.
There is probably so much more that could be revealed by a clear-minded scientific approach to the question.
Subject: Re: What Is The Secret of Women
From: achilles-ga on 29 May 2002 22:49 PDT
It's sort of a miracle. I ask a question, go to bed, wake up, and wander around after taking a shower. I felt kind of frightened. Then, BOOM! Thank you, robertskelton-ga, and thank you, world!
I slept and dreamt, found my heart where I lost it, and wrote an essay back at my website,
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